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Friday, January 21, 2011

The Other Side

If my cat Sophie could be everywhere at once, I think that's the super power she would choose if she could.

One thing Sophie can do without is a closed door. No matter what door it is in the house. If it's closed, and she can't get to the other side, she meows and loudly nudges it to attempt admittance. She cannot stand being 'left out', especially when she knows there is someone ELSE on the other side, and she can't be there with them.

Sophie is what we have dibbed our 'socia-puss', a combination of social and pussycat. She has to be where you are, and if she can't be, well, then, she's not a happy cat, or as hubby likes to say, she's a pissed puss! (I think she gets crankier as she gets older!)

My hubby and I like to joke around about how she always has to get to 'the other side' of the door. Even if it's just to be in there for a second or two to show her persistence with the subject!

Often she'll want to be let out almost as soon as she gets let in. She just can't seem to make up her mind where she wants to be. She simply refuses to be content with where she is.

Contentment is something that can elude us when we think that the other side HAS to be better than where we are now.

When Sophie finally finds a spot to curl up in and take a nap, we all get a rest from opening and closing the door.

When we choose to look at the blessings of where we are with all that is right in front of us and really want what we already have, we will have peace and joy that remains.

It's truly all about perspective. If we focus on the best of our current location instead of gesticulating and pining for what is on the other side, other good things will also come our way as we show our gratitude and appreciation for what we already treasure.

The next time you get a little restless, a little anxious, a little annoyed that you can't be There instead of Here, think instead of that cozy spot on the couch where you like to read your favorite book or that favorite chair in the dining room where you have your tea and write in your journal, or that wonderful cafe where you enjoy visiting with a friend you just laughed with, or...well, you get the picture.

Eliminate the frustration and increase the peace by seeing where you are as a gift, a treasure, a part of your destiny.

Sophie is always more content curled up on her favorite mat versus knocking on the door, trying to scratch her way in.

That's a peace we can all appreciate.
Even with the doors closed.

© 2011 by Dawn Herring

4 comments:

Cat Chat With Caren And Cody said...

great post! Something like "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" or whatever the exact words are...or from the Wizard Of Oz..."sometimes when we leave home to search for our heart's desire...we find that it was there already, right in our own back yard" or something to that effect.
About Sophie...Cody is the same, Bobo was too...I think it is a "curiosity" thing with cats or....that they just hate to be ignored!
xoxo

Dawn Herring said...

Caren,
Oh, yes, curiosity is certainly part of the cat equation! They don't want to miss anything either, no matter how minute!

And, yes, what you were searching for is often right there in front of you.

Thanks, as always, Caren, for stopping by!

Be refreshed,
Dawn

carolinaheartstrings said...

Oh I love this post. I love the message it conveys. Thank you.

Dawn Herring said...

Thanks so much for your comment; glad the post resonated with you!

Be refreshed,
Dawn

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Accountability: to give a reckoning or explanation for one’s actions, responsible.

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As long as your goals keep you moving forward and you’re making progress, then you know you’re headed in the right direction.

Once you have your goals set, the next step in accountability to yourself is writing down what you accomplish each day. You can use a daily calendar just for writing or keep track of your
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A third, and perhaps most important, aspect in accountability in your writing is taking care of yourself as a writer. Than can mean giving yourself space and not being hard on yourself if
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